Essential Negotiation Skills

The Negotiator’s Toolkit

 

Keep this toolkit handy — it’s your practical checklist for real-world negotiations.

 

Core Questions Before Any Negotiation

  • What is my objective?

  • What are my non-negotiables?

  • What is my BATNA?

  • What do I know about the other party’s needs and motivations?

  • What is the best possible outcome — and the minimum acceptable one?

 


 

Negotiation Checklist

 

Phase What to Do
Prepare Define goals, research thoroughly, understand BATNAs
Open Build rapport, set a positive tone, clarify expectations
Explore Ask questions, listen actively, uncover shared interests
Bargain Trade, not give; remain flexible but firm; seek value for both sides
Close Confirm all terms, express appreciation, document the agreement
Follow-up Ensure implementation, check in, and nurture the relationship

 

Essential Tools & Tactics

 

Tool Use It To…
BATNA Strengthen your position with a solid alternative
Anchoring Set the tone with the first number or proposal
Mirroring Build rapport through subtle imitation
Framing Shape perception with positive, strategic wording
“What If” Scenarios Explore options creatively without commitment
Reframing Shift the discussion to interests, not positions
Silence Create space for the other side to reveal more or reconsider
Trade Concessions Never give — always trade

 

Phrases to Use in Negotiation

 

When to Use Try Saying
Opening the discussion “I’m looking forward to finding a solution that works for both of us.”
Responding to aggressive tactics “Let’s focus on the issue, not the pressure.”
Reframing a tough position “What’s the reason this point matters most to you?”
Clarifying “Just to confirm, we both agree that…”
Closing the deal “Are we ready to move forward on these terms?”

 

Final Advice for Negotiators

 

  1. Be curious, not combative.

  2. Never negotiate without preparation.

  3. Focus on building relationships as well as deals.

  4. Master emotional control — yours and theirs.

  5. Practice. Reflect. Learn. Repeat.