The Negotiator’s Toolkit
Keep this toolkit handy — it’s your practical checklist for real-world negotiations.
Core Questions Before Any Negotiation
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What is my objective?
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What are my non-negotiables?
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What is my BATNA?
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What do I know about the other party’s needs and motivations?
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What is the best possible outcome — and the minimum acceptable one?
Negotiation Checklist
| Phase | What to Do |
|---|---|
| Prepare | Define goals, research thoroughly, understand BATNAs |
| Open | Build rapport, set a positive tone, clarify expectations |
| Explore | Ask questions, listen actively, uncover shared interests |
| Bargain | Trade, not give; remain flexible but firm; seek value for both sides |
| Close | Confirm all terms, express appreciation, document the agreement |
| Follow-up | Ensure implementation, check in, and nurture the relationship |
Essential Tools & Tactics
| Tool | Use It To… |
|---|---|
| BATNA | Strengthen your position with a solid alternative |
| Anchoring | Set the tone with the first number or proposal |
| Mirroring | Build rapport through subtle imitation |
| Framing | Shape perception with positive, strategic wording |
| “What If” Scenarios | Explore options creatively without commitment |
| Reframing | Shift the discussion to interests, not positions |
| Silence | Create space for the other side to reveal more or reconsider |
| Trade Concessions | Never give — always trade |
Phrases to Use in Negotiation
| When to Use | Try Saying |
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| Opening the discussion | “I’m looking forward to finding a solution that works for both of us.” |
| Responding to aggressive tactics | “Let’s focus on the issue, not the pressure.” |
| Reframing a tough position | “What’s the reason this point matters most to you?” |
| Clarifying | “Just to confirm, we both agree that…” |
| Closing the deal | “Are we ready to move forward on these terms?” |
Final Advice for Negotiators
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Be curious, not combative.
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Never negotiate without preparation.
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Focus on building relationships as well as deals.
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Master emotional control — yours and theirs.
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Practice. Reflect. Learn. Repeat.